Dear Gabby,
Being a 20 year old college student, trying to
make a difference, I’m at a moment in my life, where
relationships are very important. However, I’m also at a moment in time where these relationships have me completely confused about what I want for my life. I have been dating the most wonderful guy I have ever met for about six months, but I had only known him for a month beforehand. I also have a very close male friend who has been my support and my rock for about two years. He has helped me to grow as a person and helped me develop my purpose in life. I have just realized how close we are and how supportive he is of me as we were discussing my current relationship
and how proud he was of me. However, when he gave me a reassuring hug after a long talk, I felt my heart start beating faster and I realized I may have feelings for him! Could this
just be a false alarm due to how close we are? Or is my
relationship in jeopardy?
Sincerely,
Young and confused
Dear Young and confused,
Relationships can be tricky. I seem to find that after five months, things get stale and the excitement of a new relationship starts to dwindle. However, this is a moment that
might be beneficial to take some time and put down on paper what is important to you in a relationship. You’ve built a strong sense of closeness with your male friend, so its only
natural to feel confused about the emotions. On the other hand, your boyfriend sounds as if he has proved himself worthy. Six months is still the beginning of a relationship. Focus on improving your friendship within the relationship,
since you only had a month of getting to know each other.
My advice to you is to have an honest talk with yourself. The gut feeling you get is usually the best answer to your problem. Maybe the answer is to not get so caught up in figuring things out immediately. Let things simmer and give
yourself time to realize the true feelings you have with both men. As cliché as it may sound, listen to your heart. I feel as if you do things through love, meaning, loving yourself enough
to trust your inner feelings, you can do no wrong. Wishing you the best,
Gabby
Dear Gabby,
I am a young woman working and attending classes at Sinclair. I am trying to make my presence
known in the business world, and dress appropriately for a young professional. However, I have recently stopped wearing makeup because I don’t feel the need to hide my skin
anymore, and want people to see me as I am. I also stopped wearing high heels because of the health implications
and pointlessness of them. Although, I am still able to look professional, I am worried that people will not take me seriously, simply because I do not fit stereotypical image. How can I help people to look past my appearance and
focus on my character?
Professional Young
Woman
Dear Professional Young
Woman,
Unfortunately, the world stumbles over stereotypical images, especially the image of women. It’s a constant battle between
looking professional, but not over-the-top. Of course
anything related to work and business requires everyone to dress for their profession, however, I think we have crossed the line for what people think is necessary to look serious
for your job. I believe it’s important to be comfortable, but confident. As frustrating as it may be, dressing to impress plays a big role in the business world. Our mind processes
physical appearance first, so it’s important to portray
the professionalism on the outside. My advice to you
is to definitely stay true to your personal style, but
remember, your profession is all about image.
Stay stylish,
Gabby
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