Dear Gabby,
\nLately, I have been feeling insecure and very influenced by the opinions of others. I don\u2019t know how to get out of my funk, or how to not let the comments of others persuade me to think a different way than what feels comfortable for me. I want to eliminate the negativity in my life, but I don\u2019t want to just cut off all connections with my friends. How can I build my self- esteem up, and\/or let my friends know the things they say sometimes don\u2019t need to be said.
\nSincerely,
\nBummed out
\n
\nDear Bummed out, <\/p>\n
Hey there! I\u2019ve been in similar situations, and I can say it\u2019s a normal feeling, so don\u2019t feel like it\u2019s unusual. Unfortunately, with our technology and the craziness of the media, we can feel persuaded to act, look and feel a certain way. Until you fully accept yourself, you\u2019ll always be struggling with the comments of others. Personally, I think it\u2019s exceptionally hard to overcome a comment from another, when you, yourself, also might feel as if the comment is true. People try to blow out other people\u2019s light, to make their candle burn brighter. News flash: It\u2019s a reflection of them, not you. I know it\u2019s easier said than done, but I promise once you come to peace with that, things will make a bit more sense. I think it\u2019s important to immerse yourself in things you love. Whether that be cooking, reading, dancing, drawing, hiking, etc., it\u2019s important to find that one thing that allows you to get lost and find yourself at the same time. As for your friends, if you feel comfortable with being straightforward and honest with them, then let them know their comments hurt. Hopefully, you\u2019ll only have to say this once, and if they are true friends they will be considerate of your heart. If they don\u2019t understand, maybe reevaluate why you still keep them in your life. I think it\u2019s more important to have a good relationship with yourself, rather than try to find happiness in others. Play a little game with yourself, and see how long you can go without thinking negative thoughts about yourself. Yes, I know what you\u2019re thinking this won\u2019t work, but give yourself time, and stay focused on being positive. Sometimes all you need is a different outlook on life. Fall in love with yourself,
\nGabby
\n,
\nLately, I have been feeling insecure and very influenced by the opinions of others. I don\u2019t know how to get out of my funk, or how to not let the comments of others persuade me to think a different way than what feels comfortable for me. I want to eliminate the negativity in my life, but I don\u2019t want to just cut off all connections with my friends. How can I build my self- esteem up, and\/or let my friends know the things they say sometimes don\u2019t need to be said. Sincerely,
\nBummed out <\/p>\n
Dear Bummed out, <\/p>\n
Hey there! I\u2019ve been in similar situations, and I can say it\u2019s a normal feeling, so don\u2019t feel like it\u2019s unusual. Unfortunately, with our technology and the craziness of the media, we can feel persuaded to act, look and feel a certain way. Until you fully accept yourself, you\u2019ll always be struggling with the comments of others. Personally, I think it\u2019s exceptionally hard to overcome a comment from another, when you, yourself, also might feel as if the comment is true. People try to blow out other people\u2019s light, to make their candle burn brighter. News flash: It\u2019s a reflection of them, not you. I know it\u2019s easier said than done, but I promise once you come to peace with that, things will make a bit more sense. I think it\u2019s important to immerse yourself in things you love. Whether that be cooking, reading, dancing, drawing, hiking, etc., it\u2019s important to find that one thing that allows you to get lost and find yourself at the same time. As for your friends, if you feel comfortable with being straightforward and honest with them, then let them know their comments hurt. Hopefully, you\u2019ll only have to say this once, and if they are true friends they will be considerate of your heart. If they don\u2019t understand, maybe reevaluate why you still keep them in your life. I think it\u2019s more important to have a good relationship with yourself, rather than try to find happiness in others. Play a little game with yourself, and see how long you can go without thinking negative thoughts about yourself. Yes, I know what you\u2019re thinking this won\u2019t work, but give yourself time, and stay focused on being positive. Sometimes all you need is a different outlook on life. Fall in love with yourself,
\nGabby <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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